Abigail was originally the wife of Nabal before she became David’s wife. I like to refer to her as Lady Abigail because of the way she comported herself. Her story can be found in the book of 1 Samuel Chapter 25 in the Old Testament of the Bible.
Her story was very brief as told in the scripture mentioned above, but it had a lot of significant lessons which can guide us in this present generation.
Despite being married to Nabal, an evil and churlish man, Abigail did not let that change her true nature. She was a woman of good disposition, understanding and a beautiful countenance (1 Samuel 25: 3).
This shows that we should never allow the people around us influence us negatively. We must always maintain our good character anywhere we find ourselves and refuse to let negative attitudes and character make us succumb to be like them for there shall surely be a day of reward for doing good.
Whenever we are in a situation that will warrant us to ask for a favour from others, we must learn to be courteous and not ask rudely. The proper greetings and genuflections should be observed. David sent his men to request for provisions from Nabal, and he took the time to carefully instruct his men on the words to speak on getting to Nabal’s household, and his men followed his instructions to the letter (2 Samuel 25: 6-8).
Rudeness and ill manners are very terrible character traits for any individual to possess. It causes problems, results in bitterness and could degenerate to an unending conflict. Politeness and good manners, on the other hand, does not cost us anything. Rather it helps in maintaining peace and good relationships (1 Samuel 25: 10-11).
Never repay good with evil. It is a terrible way to reward anyone that has shown you kindness and helped you in life. If someone takes responsibility for your safety, the protection of your properties and tarries at night to be a wall of defence round about you, then it is a great wickedness to refuse to be of help to the person when a time of need arises. This is exactly what Nabal did when he declined to respond to David’s plea for some provisions for himself and his men (1 Samuel 25: 14-17).
A man or woman, boy or girl must be willing to take correction. No one is an encyclopedia of knowledge that is above making mistakes. We should never be perceived as people that cannot be given pieces of advice or be corrected because the consequences are grave. If a person manifests this kind of character of being too obstinate or too proud to be corrected or to be given advice, then he/she is at the risk of not being informed of anything or given any warning but rather left to all dangers that abound. This is because people close to them may be afraid of approaching them for fear of the way that they may react (1 Samuel 25: 17).
A wise woman is proactive and quick in thinking. Abigail understood that a gift makes way for the giver. She did not withhold her hand from David and his men (1 Samuel 25: 18). She also understood the value of humility and the proper conduct that is suitable at a particular point in time. She understood that to forestall the calamity that was coming to her entire household; someone had to step out in faith and act as the peace keeper to preserve the lives of the members of her household from the certain destruction that was coming their way (1 Samuel 25: 24). Women, it is not every battle your hubby is fighting that you must join him to fight and aggravate an already volatile situation. You can choose to become the peace maker and restore peace in the midst of the storms of the battle raging in your home.
Women should never be afraid to advise the people the Lord has laid it on our hearts to counsel. We must not be intimidated or threatened by their status or position but should follow through on the Lord’s instruction. But of course, we must follow the right procedures and be as polite as possible. We must also be sensitive to the Spirit that we may be able to get the appropriate information concerning the one we are being led to counsel. This will enable us to address the exact issues that have a direct bearing on the issues on ground. This was how Abigail handled the matter between David and her hubby, Nabal, and there was a direct and verifiable result due to her actions (1 Samuel 25: 28-31).
We must be still and let God fight on our behalf. When we try to fight our battles ourselves, we may fall into error and sin. It is always tempting to do this to prove ourselves, but let us learn to allow God take control (1 Samuel 25: 26). The advice Abigail gave David helped him to put aside his anger and avoid taking the lives of the members of the household of Nabal, in trying to avenge him by himself. He let the Lord take control of the situation, and God did the avenging on his behalf. It is recorded in the Bible, that the Lord himself smote Nabal and he died (1 Samuel 25: 38).
We must always quietly reflect on our character and how it affects the people around us. We must learn to see things through the eyes of the people closest to us. We must listen to both the silent and audible cries of the people closest to us and understand how our behaviour and decisions affect them. We must ask ourselves genuinely about how the people close to us perceive us to be. Unfortunately, Nabal was known as a fool to those closest to him. He was also known as a son of Belial and a man who was unapproachable and did not take sound counsel. What a shame !!! (1 Samuel 25: 17 & 25).
We may go through the valley for some time, and experience challenges, ridicule and shame because of our peculiar situation. God allows these things happen to us, to draw us closer to him and cause us to seek his face more, and also to strengthen our character. We should not forget that there is always an expiration date for every storm in our lives. Weeping may endure for the night but joy cometh in the morning, so the Holy Bible says. This was Abigail’s situation. She was in the predicament of being in a marriage where even her servants mocked her husband because of his character and wicked ways (1 Samuel 25: 14-17). God turned things around for her, and she was resettled in a new home. God is the restorer of lost/stolen years, and he can make all things beautiful in his own time.
Glory to his name!